"They won't necessarily do it, but they have the capacity." Bailey's idea is backed up by studies showing that homosexuality is a more fluid state among women than men.In another broad review of studies, Baumeister found many more lesbians reported recent sex with men, when compared to gay men's reports of sex with women.Birds do it, bees do it, and men do it any old time. The sources of women's libidos, by contrast, are much harder to pin down.
Only about one-quarter of women say they think about it that frequently.
As men and women age, each fantasize less, but men still fantasize about twice as often.
That doesn't mean men don't seek intimacy, love, and connection in a relationship, just as women do. "Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex," Perel explains. Sex is the language men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side," Perel says.
"It is their language of intimacy." Men, on average, take 4 minutes from the point of entry until ejaculation, according to Laumann.
Women's desire "is more contextual, more subjective, more layered on a lattice of emotion," Perel adds.
Men, by contrast, don't need to have nearly as much imagination, Perel says, since sex is simpler and more straightforward for them.
They are likely to be more attuned to relationship quality because they want a partner who will stay around to help take care of the child.
They're also more likely to choose a man with resources because of his greater ability to support a child.
Bear in mind that people may vary from these norms.