People need time to adjust to the major changes that divorce brings: different living situations, moving, financial struggles, and having to share time with your kids. It’s the death of your hopes, dreams, and beliefs that you will spend the rest of your life with your spouse. It’s wise to wait a year or so, so that you can evaluate your life, take inventory of who you are, change the things about you that you don’t like, and discover what exactly you’re looking for in a partner.
However, if you wait too long, some things happen that make dating more difficult.
There are some advantages to being on your own – advantages like getting up to pee in the middle of the night and not falling in the toilet because no one has left the seat up.
There’s something to be said for not having shaving gel and toothpaste globs stuck to your sink.
What was right for a friend of yours may not be the same approach that's right for you.
But there Once you determine that you're ready to date again, you should communicate with your children about your decision.
I encourage you to make this decision you start dating again.
Some divorced parents introduce their kids to all of their friends, without going into detail about the relationship.
This approach may decrease the number of people your kids meet, but it can also feel to your kids as though you're hiding something from them.
It can also be hard to shift from having lots of one-on-one time with someone you're dating to suddenly having to divide your attention between your kids and your significant other.
My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an skit! When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over.
Out of necessity, I learned how to do these things. Sure, it would be nice to have someone to do those things and to help out, but when it comes down to it, I am capable of taking care of everything on my own.
It doesn't have to be a conversation about dating someone in particular.