Make sure to act interested but not too interested in your teen's dating life with the hope that they will open up to you if they run into difficulties. Friends are marginally ok but not romance of any sort. If they don't experiment, they won't know how a relationship works in the real world.
....woman who wrote the letter needs to stop thinking in terms of "late" bloomers especially when she mentioned her husband and dating. There are plenty of people who didn't date until they were in their late twenties or thirties.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to not make your parents upset and nothing wrong with focusing on school either.
She suggests parents sit down with their pre-teens to discuss the issue calmly, before it even comes up.
This conversation will help you figure out if your child is ready.
My husband and I have been discussing the answer to our daughter's question and we just don't know the right answer.
I don't want to be overly protective and strict like my parents were but I also don't want to be too permissive.By the way, my husband was a late bloomer and started dating at 19. A Confused Mother Dear Mother, I completely understand why you are confused.First, the definition of dating is different these days than it was when you and your husband were younger.In the past, a young man, usually a teenage boy, would come to a teenage girl's house and take her on an actual date which might include something like a movie AND a curfew. Middle schoolers sometimes say they are dating when actually all they are doing is texting or even communicating via Facebook or in some other electronic manner.Teens in high school may define dating as being exclusive with each other physically which means that they don't "hook-up" with anyone else.It is not so much a concern as it is that this idea of kids dating as has been perpetuated via media.