For example, when you can sense your boyfriend had a bad day, or is tense after talking on the phone to his mom, you can ask him questions to get him emoting.
Such empathetic communication deepens and enhances love partnerships.
Here’s an exercise that can help you implement Fromm’s wise insight to pick Mr. If he was going to invite Sherry to move in with him, he'd better look ahead down the road and decide if he really was wanting to stay on the marriage track with her.
From Second Sight, here are five types of intuitive experiences you may encounter, and what they can teach you about your love relationships. Most commonly referred to as a "gut reaction," your body's response to the world around you is often instant--quicker, in fact, than your conscious thought. What's more, you may be able to avoid getting involved with destructive, unhealthy lovers, or be curious to pursue a really good guy who, at first blush, doesn't seem to be your "type." Déjà vu.
Next time you sense your body is trying to alert you to something, check in with it. This is when you feel as though you've had this exact conversation before with someone--even if it's someone you've just met--or you've been to this place before and know what's around the corner and up ahead, even though that's impossible.
For no apparent reason, you suddenly sense a person's deep loneliness, or you feel hostility coming from a person who is smiling at you.
Being sensitive to other people's nature is a valuable skill--but it comes with perils.
They will come to you in snapshot-life flashes--a taste, smell, sound, or a feeling in your body. The better you get at tuning in, the clearer the messages will become.
When two people are really "clicking," such experiences become even more commonplace, such as having intuitive flashes about your lover's health, or about where you two might be living in five years. This is when you "pick up a vibe" from another person.
Or conversely, it may be a way of telling you to pause, think, and reflect on where you are right now, before proceeding ahead willy-nilly into a relationship you'll regret. This is the experience of perfect timing, such as when you're thinking about a song right when you hear it on the radio, or the computer guy you found in the yellow pages turns out to be someone you had a mad crush on in college. Such moments let you know that you're in the flow--in the right place, at the right time. For example, you think of a long-lost boyfriend, and then he sends you an email in that instant.
Or, you call your guy at work and ask him to pick up a pizza.
And as to co-habitation, that's a real slow way to gather data about whether your true love will be a good marriage partner for you.
Cohabitation can result in sliding into a longterm relationship that was never meant to be, using up critical years of potential child-bearing age, and perpetually postponing making a permanent partner choice.
If you feel drained after meeting someone at a party, for example, pay attention so you can avoid giving him your phone number.