Do your research, tons of reviews show that and AFF are scams. The majority of the people there already have someone and are not "looking for love." There are a zillion more males than females on all these sites, frankly.
I made an account for "perversions.com" because some bogus review site said it's good for BDSM people, then it turns out to actually be a website called eroticads.com, which I searched and had several bogus reviews, then I found actual user reviews that verified everything is bogus.
ANYWAY, I can find normal women offline easy, but where do I find women into BDSM or fetish-related stuff?
Adult Friend Finder (AFF) owns and both are full of fake profiles.
If you sign up for the free version your mailbox quickly gets messages from people who cannot have contact with unless you pay.
If you are dominant, you are matched to other dominants and there is no way to change this.
The orientation is not even an option when filling out what you are looking for, beyond Gay, Straight, Bi.
if you are a submissive male, your first experiences will almost certainly be with professionals.
There are few dominant women and many submissive men and the odds are incredibly against you.
Most of the single submissive females on Fetlife who are not under 25 range from extremely overweight to obese.
I realize that is now the status quo in American society, but it is simply a fact that height and weight proportional people on Fetlife, who are single and looking for someone, are perhaps THE smallest population, um so to speak.
Myself included I was sent a email saying I had too many Emails friends and favorite requests.