The true question is whether they are going all in indiscriminately.I think you should see some of these dates through in order to determine if these guys are desperate or if they’re just unafraid to make their intentions known.Even though I've never met Antoinette, my guess is that she thinks Mike is a nice guy - but that he would be a nightmare to date ...
But they are both also busy professionals and divorced with kids, so it’s possible that they don’t date much and a few dates feels like a big deal to them. At this stage, the most a man could possibly commit to is dating me exclusively while we figure out if we’re compatible.
I’m just curious as to WHY someone would announce even that level of commitment so quickly.
If they’re bombarded with options then it’s less likely that they’re as anxious to jump into something serious.
The people with all the options will either explore all those options and eventually choose (which could take some time) or realize that the odds are in their favor and just hang back and enjoy their plethora of possibilities.
so let me now go back and elaborate on those issues, as they are just as important a part of being comfortable with yourself as the "good karma" persona.
Whether you want to date a particular woman or not is immaterial - if you appear to her to be too interested, she is going to think you are weird or a stalker or possibly too controlling.
I’m looking for something long-term, and I don’t usually date more than one person at a time.
But I don’t feel the need to tell men that on a first date.
I don’t want to get invested in a guy who’s only looking for sex or an ego boost…