So when we call, women have to be completely comfortable and feel excited to answer the phone, otherwise she won’t pick up.The problem with women not picking up when we call often occurs when contact disappears for a long time. For whatever reason, you can’t really call the girl for a few days. You are left wondering, “Why is this girl so flaky, and where did things go wrong?
I have created an inside joke, and I will go back to this seed and make it grow at a future time.
After I receive her phone number, I will purposely not give mine.
We want to contact them just enough to maintain an emotional high so that when we call, they are excited.
In addition, I have also made the transition from the online world to someone who is in her “real” life.
I will mention this during the IM conversation (or email), make a couple of jokes, and move on.
However, my bad date story is the seed and has thus been planted.You are “planting the seeds” for a future conversation.For example, I love telling bad date stories as my “conversation seed.” They are fun, and we’ve all had them.In addition, they subconsciously communicate we are different from all the other bad daters.So let’s say I am meeting girls online through Instant Messaging.When we eventually call (although these women may have initially wanted to answer) their comfort levels have dropped.