Whether it was realized or not, the emphasis of these respective guidelines is on promoting an environment conducive to getting the two parties actively involved in learning about each other on a deeper level. It can be used as a blueprint to take you through what your first five major meet-ups with your potential mate represent. If date number one was all about getting to know someone in real time, then date number two usually encompasses learning more about your potential mate's passions and the things they find enjoyable.
The fourth date is a representation of how you two should strive to treat each other during the course of your relationship. Your brain, your heart, ad your reproductive equipment all point, literally and figuratively, to one person in particular.
In an ideal scenario, the fourth date, after you've waited and learned about your new mate, is the time frame when you're both ready to take your physical intimacy to the next level.5. You don't want any surprise guest stars showing up on set, nor does your new significant other want to find out that someone else is auditioning for the role.
Once that understanding has been clearly reached, you can safely do what grown folks do.
Because saints don't exist anymore, you two have probably come close to breaking that "no sex until monogamy" rule, which isn't a bad thing.
Maybe you've spent a ton of time texting or talking.
Maybe that first meeting was so powerful that you both propelled out of the first stage of attraction and into the Friendship phase.
It represents the two of you intentionally taking steps to assess the development of an intimate relationship. You're admitting to yourself that the person you once considered only as a sexual diversion could very well develop into a much more substantial character in a life story starring you.
As a matter of fact, the first date is you actively entertaining the idea that this person could take you off the market, which is a scary notion for the nice guys and the player-types alike.
If the date goes well enough, a second date is definitely in order.
Tye Farley has more than 10 years of experience as a behavioral profiler and crisis manager.
Game On The dating world is a lot like ancient mythology.