The more shy someone is, and the further into life they struggle these problems, the more severe and challenging to overcome the symptoms likely are: And like with guys who are anxious about dating, the fear isn't something they can just easily 'get over'.They may be interested in a man, but feel too chicken to strike up a conversation with him.
"They looked at me in class for a tenth of a second today! " The points above are general shyness related obstacles that apply to both sexes in much the same way.
" (Cue melodramatic fantasies about getting married to them) "On Facebook they posted a You Tube video from a band I don't like. Below are the problems that shy women alone have to deal with: I put this one first to get it out of the way, since I think most people know about this concept.
Instead I had to rely on my observations and research on what shy women go through.
Like with men, there's variation in how shy women can be towards the opposite sex and dating.
It mainly comes from absorbing the skewed portrayals of dating from the media and society (sappy love songs, melodramatic romance movies, tales of princesses and brave knights, talk of meeting 'The One' and being happy and blissful forever, etc.) A reader told me this, in response the article I wrote on the issues shy guys go through. In that other article I talked about how guys who are shy with women often spend a lot of time thinking about how they can get out of their rut and finally have some success with dating.
Since their nerves prevent them from being proactive about solving the problem, they put a lot of stock in the women they come across through their day-to-day lives.If a girl smiles in their direction, or they have a pleasant conversation with someone, or they see a woman around who seems like she might be interested in him, his mind eagerly jumps to, "Oh man, she might be the person who finally becomes my first girlfriend!" Since they're not proactive they can't just go ask her out or speak to her further.This article will talk about that, with more focus put on the issues that are unique to shy women.This piece was a little different to write for me, since being a guy, I didn't have the benefit of being able to draw on my firsthand experiences to inform my points (though you'll still see me interjecting a male perspective in parts).They want to talk to a particular guy, but they can't.