I was one of those, “I don’t identify as a feminist” types, too, as I had similar ideas of what that meant.Then I branched out a bit and started to immerse myself more in the writings and teaching of other writers and began to realize that my world view was actually astonishingly narrow.The majority of women I know are unhappy because they want a man who is a man… Now there’s man who knew how to spew those love words and woo a girl, but who would duel in the street if he felt you dishonored him or his family. Just as there are no real dating rules anymore, there are really no traditional gender roles anymore.
In my defense, I can clean up my dirty mouth in appropriate situations.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for a woman getting an education, working and being her own person, but believe it or now I also have very conservative views when it comes to gender roles, children and marriage.
Contribute financially in some way and just get the fuck over it already.) A man should stand up for his principles and assert himself, but women shouldn’t. I believe the reason why so many men and women have warped ideas of masculinity and femininity is that they are basing those ideas on FICTIONAL FUCKING CHARACTERS and stories they’ve heard from friends who are almost certainly lying to some degree.
Except when they should, like when you want to write a blog post detailing how twee men and butch women have become. The fantasy never matches up to reality, hence why so many people can never find what they’re looking for.
It just so happens, since a large majority of the people submitting letters are women, I’m often presenting the man’s POV. As I said in my comment on her blog, it would behoove her to understand the general premise of feminism before trying to tear it down.
I push for accountability and self-awareness and critical thinking. I’m going to tread lightly here because I feel as though I still have quite a bit to learn.
The overall issue I had with her post is that she, like most dating bloggers who haven’t a fucking clue about the issues they’re talking about, is talking out of both sides of her mouth.
She doesn’t like the changes in traditional gender roles and thinks feminism is all about being a man hater, but she takes advantage of both of those ideologies whenever possible.
Get this: you can get married and take his last name and still be a feminist.
You can enjoy dressing up and cooking and taking care of your man and still be a feminist.
My insights were based on my experiences, but because I had never experienced any of the things so often bandied about in feminist forums, I dismissed them. But what I know now that I didn’t know then was that the complaints we’d hear about the patriarchy and misogyny were far more widespread than I had realized.