Being around his kids can be a plus when it gives you the chance to experience what life with children is like – without having to have them yourself!
That way you do not seem like you are tattling on them and he may pay closer attention to whats going on.
As for the mom comments, the kids may constantly be bringing up her to reaffirm that she's irreplaceable.
If you're uncomfortable with the relationship he and his soon to be ex-wife still have, it may be worth talking to him about it.
He may see how this is putting a damper on your relationship and choose to speed the process up.
But if you think back to your previous relationships (with guys who’ve never been married), you’ll see that there are plenty of problems with these other types of men too. But in today's world, where divorce is the norm, you might want to reconsider.
If you just dismiss guys because they are divorced, you could be missing out on a whole world of potentially great partners. You don't need official statistics to tell you divorce is a pretty...
That being said, he may not be quite ready to start the process, and if this is something that is going to continually bother you, you may want to reevaluate the relationship and where you see things going.
I started dating a man who has been divorced for over a year, however his young children -- a daughter who is 8 years old and a son who is 10 -- do not want me to be with their dad.
They make snide comments when he's not around and constantly refer to their mother (with whom he shares custody) when we're all spending time together. Nobody wants their parents to separate, and since they are children they aren't equipped with the coping skills and manners that come along with age. This may just be their natural way of coping with divorce and handling him moving on.