But from those marriages that remain intact, did you ever wonder how many husbands and wives live miserably?
There is no positive outcome from dissing your spouse.
We need to stop putting down and start pulling ourselves up.
For example: You’re upset about your husband missing your son’s PTA meeting.
Instead of talking about his not making it tonight, you remember all the past PTA’s he missed.
And then you remember the Chanukah party he came late to, and your sister’s Thanksgiving dinner five years ago. Now you are arguing about all the past hurts and you’ve lost focus on the present.
You’re angry that your wife ran up a large credit card bill this month.It is also interesting to note that women learned relationship skills more easily and were better able to teach them to their partners.So yes, there is hope for one person to make change even if the other is resistant.Honestly, though, there has always been something in our lives that has made him either angry or upset. My 9 year old daughter told me that she never wants to get married, there is just too much fighting when you’re a mommy. But I also do not feel like living with all this negative energy in my life.He has often blamed his parents for not making him feel loved enough when he was a child. My husband is not interested in seeking ways to make this better.(Of course we are not speaking about a marriage where there is cheating, abuse or chemical imbalance in need of medical help going on). We begin by talking about something that bothers us now and then we go back in time.