Showing affection or PDA (Public Display of Affection)- Holding hands, hugging or cuddling is not that allowed in the public eye. But unfortunately in Japan if you are in a public place or at least there’s a presence of someone else, flashing your affection is a big no no!Way back when we were still in the Philippines I would usually hold his hand or cling around his arm but one day when we were already in Japan I accidentally reached his hand to hold and all of a sudden he got annoyed and reminded me that it is not nice to do it in public in Japan. There’s nothing wrong about working hard but everything is only good in moderation.Have you ever wondered what to expect when dating a Japanese guy?
However, those particular traits and characteristics are part of what my boyfriend is now, so the only choice I have now is to understand and accept it as a part of loving him.
Actually, those cultural differences that we have in between are keeping us together and we take it as a challenging adventure along the way, and I honestly think, it’s just the same as with any relationship, regardless of the culture.
It is part of their routine in the office that after work they go somewhere to drink. I cannot remember last time my boyfriend gave me flowers or “sweet nothings” , but when it comes to being responsible and generous I couldn’t ask for more.
This is the place where they usually discuss their problems or some issues that went unresolved inside the office. Japanese men are good providers and will shoulder all the expenses in the house but don’t expect them to extend extra effort for sweet gesture.
My boyfriend works 12 hours a day which is basically half of the whole day, and with only one day off.
That only means he loses the chance for leisure or vacation and it’s sad to think that most of the time he misses special family events.
I think there is more of, for lack of a better word, a “demand” for white women, particularly with blond hair and blue eyes. However, I’ve been hit on/flirted with by Japanese men, so yes some do. So when he called communication was pretty much impossible, as we had said all the basic stuff when we met, so there was really no way that could go anywhere.
I think straight men in general find women in general attractive, and if you’re an attractive woman men will be attracted to your feminine charms, no matter what race or colour you are. We met at a club and I gave him my number, but his English level was very low, and my Japanese was even lower.
Perhaps you’re aware or the charisma man, charisma girl stigma?
These are people who come to Japan with the aim of “sowing their wild oats”. Not only because they’re usually kind of cheesy people, but also because cheese is cheap and widely available in the west, but here in Japan it’s expensive, more valuable… If you want to date other foreigners, avoid the cheese people.
It shouldn’t be too difficult though, as these cheesy people are usually pretty scared of you, and only have eyes for their “prey”, Japanese people. If you’re dating someone who has lived in the West, that mitigates it somewhat.