The best part is that most of you girls are actually willing to let a guy into your life without having an agenda of your own because most of you understand that But that still doesn’t address the most important problem I see with people who are pressured into dating their best friends.Don’t get me wrong – I firmly believe that growing a romantic relationship from a close friendship is one of the best ways to find someone you can spend the rest of your life with. If you bottle up your feelings and let them grow unchecked, then you’re setting yourself up for pain.
You’ve been friends with this person for months, maybe years.
Everyone tells you that the two of you are the next Harry and Sally.
The key is to be transparent before you start building a close friendship.
If you haven’t asked her out yet because you want to be friends first, then let her know.
There’s no room for awkwardness anymore because you’ve filled it with a real friendship.
If you suck it up and do this, then you now know exactly where you stand, and you don’t have to begin pining away for a girl who will always just see you as a friend.You do this when you say things like, “I’m not ready for a relationship right now.” If you say something like that, then the guy (or girl, if the roles are switched) will assume that you will be ready for a relationship with later. Why would you want to be confide in someone who doesn’t have the integrity to let you know exactly what the deal is?Finally, and this is for everyone, you don’t have to date your best friend. Don’t let the pressure from other people and external obligations dictate who you invest romantic emotions into.You’re attracted to how easy and fun your platonic relationship is with that person.And yet you still have no idea what to do about it.So much so that I don’t think I’ve ever fully recovered (she broke up with me a month later).