” In it, I concluded that it’s up to the individual. And just cause you WANT to move on from your previous relationships does not mean you’re really READY to. Generally, if you’re dating immediately after divorce, you’re hurt, reeling and looking for a safe harbor in the storm that is singledom. He thought he was ready for another committed relationship but needed a break before moving ahead. He told her he’d come back after he had time to sort things out. Very reasonable men want to love again, and are shocked to find out that it’s not possible.The exact quote was “if you’ve mourned, if you’ve healed, if you’ve made peace – then you’re ready whenever you say you’re ready.” Allow me to correct myself. I have a client who went out with a man who was separated. On the other hand, you’ve heard tales of men who went seamlessly from one relationship to another without a break.
Do be careful of the divorced man who is only recently out of his marriage.
Unless of course you're looking for a fling (like him), looking to experiment (as is he), or looking to get your heart broken.
While you may have help that frees you up for the occasional vacation, dating with kids at different ages and stages can pose logistical and financial challenges, much like age-stage differences in the couple itself.
Do listen if he says he isn't interested in helping to parent your kids, he's tired of you only being available for a weekend relationship, or he can't afford to pick up the financial slack for a single mother with children.
As a dating coach/expert, what do you think of the idea of dating someone who is still in the process of divorce?
Do you advise your clients to take the date or run as quick as possible?
All you can do is trust your gut and don’t second guess yourself every step of the way. And if you want the support of others who have been through the process of dating after divorce, check out Divorce Net.com, a site where I used to moderate an online dating forum.
In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).
Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Do pay attention to what your kids think of him, and what his kids think of you.
We all need time to heal and don't want to plunge blindly into the rebound relationship. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.
He’s doing what’s practical not to scare people off.