Well, many women would argue that the same comment applies to dating after 60.Not only are there statistically fewer men, but the dynamic of human engagement, and style of personal connection, has changed dramatically since we were dating in our 20’s.OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54 year old man really wants from you? She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!
Use Linked In to casually say hi to interesting men you’ve met at events.
You will find out soon enough if they are married or committed, so, for now, just be friendly and see what happens.
Let single girlfriends know that you are actively looking for a relationship – maybe they know someone who is perfect for you!
Another place to meet interesting men is the good old standby, the coffee shop. Sometimes just asking whether the chocolate muffins are any good is enough to start a great conversation. You’re not looking for the love of your life (although it would be nice to find him).
Somebody I can take out to dinner on Wednesday, a picnic on Saturday, and talk to or text during the week. Getting dates isn’t the problem, it’s converting just one to girlfriend status that has been the challenge.
I get an enormous volume of contacts but these fifty year olds are like herding cats on caffeine. One second they’re super interested and then a day later it’s “hmmm, well, I’m not sure, yes, no, maybe, catch me if you can”.
Also, a lifetime of love and loss has made many women distrustful and unwilling to get back into the dating game.
Dating coaches take a more positive stance on dating after 60.
They explain that a change in mindset is essential for women over 60 who want to find romance.
In my recent interview with dating coach, David Wygant, he suggested that men are often the ones who lack confidence and suffer from fear of rejection.
This weekend, grab your dog and visit your local park.