I want to see more of him at this point (3 months,) especially on Saturday nights.
"Sex in the early, raw stages of grief might be more of a distraction, a momentary pleasure," he says.
"In my first months all my senses were either shut down or numb, so to start dating and risk falling in love, with the possibility of losing someone else dear to me, was just too much." Liebenow writes of his solo hiking in Yosemite, going through territory inhabited by bears, rattlesnakes, and mountain lions.
He’ll probably let you go and resume his new life on I had a man write me from whose wife had passed 3 weeks earlier – they had a 38 year marriage – and she died from a recently diagnosed cancer!
Talk about rebound………he started to email me and call several times per day and because I am not the “rebound” girl, I slowed things down and poof!
If he were lonely and desperate to get married, I’d feel better about your chances, but he’s not.
Give him another month to try harder and if he fails, walk away.Women are less likely than men to seek comfort in sex while grief endures, says a writer at hellogrief.org, citing one reason why a women who is dating a widower "might be amazed that he wants to make love to you."Silent brooding, isolation, and even anger are stock elements of male behavior, while women tend to "talk it out" with close friends.Support systems are emblematic of the female experience; men do not cultivate support structures in the same way women do.I have not “lost” the guy I’ve been dating for the past 3 months, but I need to fix some of the mistakes I was starting to make. and 1 in Oct.) when we saw each other on Saturday and Sunday (but no sleepover) we have only seen each other once a week.He’s a recent widower (wife died of cancer in June 2010.) We started dating just after Labor Day. We live about an hour and 1/2 apart and he has a very high level job and a big house to take care of (and a dog.) There has been no sex yet but lots of “foreplay.” He says he always waits to have sex until he’s more sure of the woman.He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.