In the grand scheme of the universe, our existence is barely a blink of an eye.But thankfully, we aren't trying to create stars and galaxies — we're just trying to understand how it all works and fits together. If you want to get to know someone, you want to know what he or she spends the most time thinking about, what he or she believes is more important than everything else. Alice's Twitter @Dr Alice Boyes photo credits: Pink Sherbet Photography, Www.
We’re wired so that once we start to develop an emotional attachment this is hard to break away from. Why: Different vacation preferences or amounts of vacation time can be a major source of ongoing incompatibility. Why: This question helps establish if your date has a positive or negative attitude? Why: Helps you find out the person's preferences and also helps you establish if the person has any free time or if they're a workaholic.
Find out early if there are reasons that “making it work” will be fraught. Select a few of these questions rather than attempt to ask them all on the same first date! For example, if one person likes to take very long trips and the other person has a more standard two weeks vacation time. If asking this question leads to five solid minutes of them complaining you'll know the person sees the glass as half empty. Why: When you enter a relationship with someone you’re also entering a relationship with their friends. Why: If one of you doesn't like pets and the other has 3 dogs, that's likely to be a problem.
He primarily addresses the successes and downfalls of love and life.
There aren’t hard and fast rules about what’s a good vs. Research has shown that the most effective communication style in relationships is a flexible one. Why: This is primarily relevant if you're either an extreme night or an extreme morning person.
Plus, if you happen to have read some of the same books, papers, essays or news stories, segueing the conversation into a different direction will be a piece of cake.
A young writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur, Paul Hudson (@Mr Paul Hudson) has been writing for Elite Daily nearly since the start.
Our emotions are pure instinct; we developed them before we became human beings.
Of course, as our brains developed and our reasoning became more complex, the emotions themselves became more complex.
Also, if anything out of the ordinary has happened that might be affecting your date’s mood, it’s good to factor this in. Also, it’s nice to give your date an opportunity to answer a question that isn't directly about them.